If you are constantly fighting and getting into conflicts with the love of your life, and are always wondering why your girlfriend or wife can never understand you, you can do something to bring back the passion in your relationship with her. The results you want may not be instant; in fact, anything which promises you overnight success is always bogus. However, your desired results will come surely and certainly, just as the sun would rise from the East every morning, if you would put in the right effort, patience and concentration.
Here are some simple strategies to get you started, and before long, you should be able to break the barriers of stubborness, of blindness, and of bitterness in your relationship with your loved one, and replace them with feelings of affection, warmth, laughter and love for you.
1) BE the solution
Find out for yourself and understand the reasons which bring about all the fightings, arguments, and even break-up. You have the power to turn the relationship around to your favor and create that long lasting and harmonious relationship which you so desire. Whatever difficulties or obstables you are facing in your relationship right now, know that if you change your attitude, your outer environment will change as well. Be the solution, and start watching miracles happen.
2) It's about being the Right man
If you take your relationship seriously, are sure you want to love this woman all your life, and even keep her by your side, you have to decide to be the right man to her. By this, I do not mean to say you have to change drastically into something else and not being yourself anymore. Trust me, if you are not being yourself, no women would ever want to be with you. Women love honest, trustworthy, and committed men.
One of my clients whom I have worked with previously has this to say: "If you are happy with the way I have done something, just tell me so, don't pretend to be happy just to please me or pacify me. And don't pretend to be something which you are not!" To be the right and true man, you just have to understand what women want, and give it to her! There is one immortal truth of life I would like to share with you, and it is this: If you want to influence any persons (including your love interest) to your way of thinking, and to your way of doing things, give them what THEY want!
3) Women love romance more than what you think
Your woman loves romance, and she wants romance more than you think she wants! To be romantic and sensitive to her needs and wants is something which will come naturally to most men during the courting and wooing phase of their relationship with a woman. During this period when he wants a woman badly, he will want to do anything and everything to win over her heart. He is eager to find out what turns her on, her likes and dislikes, and what exactly will attract her. So, what does a man usually do? He will try to be attractive for the the women of their life! He never stops dating and courting her, giving her unexpected surprises, making her jump and squeak with delight. In addition, he will try very, very hard not to do anything which will turn her off, or which will not please her.
The truth is, your woman is still looking for romance and your pampering, even after both of you have reached the 'steady' phase in a relationship. Thus, your woman can never get tired of more romance and attention from you, especially if she really love you. Bear this in mind.
4) Women put Love her Number One priority
"But she is so unreasonable", "She is too controlling and manipulative. She always wants to find out my whereabouts. Who does she think she is? A detective?", "She is so damanding, wanting me to call her every single hour of the day, and if I'm late, or I've forgotten to call, I've to watch out!". These are often the common complaints made by many frustrated men who cannot seem to figure out what is going on in their relationship. If you find yourself in similar situation, here is a solution for you. First, you have to understand women think and behave very differently from men. You would not be able to change anyone, including her, just as she cannot change you. It's not within our power to control or change another person. However, you can try to understand your woman, and know why she thinks and behaves as she does. With your newfound knowledge of this woman, you'll be able to strategise and know what to say and how to react with the objective of bringing more harmony and peace to your relationship.
For now, just try to understand that once women get into a relationship, she will put Love her Number One priority. Whatever she does, no matter how she says it, it is because YOU are her number one priority right now! This is how she sees love and defines love. If she wants you to call, that's because she wants to know that you are thinking of her, and that she is loved. So, what you can do is, if you say you will call 3 hours later, mean it, and don't make excuses or deny if you forget all about it. It means a lot to her. If you cannot make the call during that point in time, make it a point to let her know, or text her a message to say it is inconvenient for you to call. If you take it lightly, and can't be bothered to call, guess what will happen? She will be sitting at home feeling miserable and frustrated, thinking whether you really love her and care enough to keep your promise, and very likely she will end up wondering if there is something very wrong with HERSELF!
The factors leading to a relationship or marriage break-up are often not because of the differences between men and women. It is your attitude and methods of treating these differences that matter. If you will put in the heart and soul to really understand your woman, and BE the solution, you will be able to save your breaking relationship. To create a long-lasting and harmonious relationship or marriage, patience, tolerance, and perserverance are the keys.
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Cucan Pemo, from http://www.RetrieveALover.com/home.htm