Husband, if things are a little tense or unhappy between you and your wife right now... Or, if everything seems to be ok but just not very sexual, then take a few days to turn things around and have yourself a sex-filled weekend. Here's Tip #3...
Have you ever stopped to really notice how a genuinely kind person makes you feel on the inside?
Have you noticed how that when a person speaks kindly to you they make everything seem so SAFE and OK?
Have you noticed that when some person deals with you in a kindly way, they make it seem as if it's ok that you're less than perfect because you're plenty good enough?
In fact, did you notice how they made you feel as if you should bring your gifts out of hiding and bring them forward where they'll not only be accepted but even appreciated?
Have you ever really messed something up or fallen short of the desired standard – and yet in kindness, you were given the opportunity to try again – even when someone else could probably have done it better and faster?
Have you ever watched someone handle another person in kindness even though they had the authority, power, right, and even good reason to treat them otherwise?
Did you notice the feelings of admiration you felt towards that kind person?
Do you remember telling others about how impressed you were with the kind person?
Maybe, even as you're reading these questions, you start feeling some of these feelings again and notice how wonderful it feels.
And, if these are such good feelings to you, can you imagine how much more pronounced these feelings would be for your wife – someone who's even more in tune with feelings than you?
Well, let me tell you when a woman encounters a kindly man, it invokes a particular response in her...it makes her want to get closer to that man – and surrender herself to the "SEXUAL LOVING CARE" of that kindly man.
But, for this to happen, it has to be a certain form of kindness...
Kindness that's expressed for the sake of getting someone else to "like" you or "do" something for you or to "accept" you or "approve" of you WON'T work.
What WILL work are expressions of kindness coming from a man who is non-arrogant, non-condescending, strength-filled, has power-in-reserve, and who has attained a measure of success but yet remembers humbleness because of his own past mistakes and failures.
What WILL work is being gentle when you could be rough, being respectful, when you could be disrespectful, being kind when you could be unkind, being loving when you could be unloving, being complimentary when you could be uncomplimentary, being approving when you could be un-approving.
What WILL work is making someone feel safe when you could make them feel unsafe or making them feel good about themselves when you could make them feel badly about themselves or making them feel valuable and worthwhile when you could make them feel valueless and worthless.
When a man has this kind of strength so much so that he's able to be BIG ENOUGH to treat his wife with KINDNESS, it translates into a VERY SEXUAL feeling inside his woman.
So, between now and the weekend, treat your wife with the RIGHT KIND of KINDNESS and see for yourself what happens. I'm quite sure you're going to like the results.
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