As one woman told me, "You wanna do it?" isn't the best approach. Women prefer something a little more subtle and discrete and exciting...
Following are 5 ways you can stir up sexual thoughts in your wife's mind:
1. Touch your skin to her skin in unusual and different ways. For example, while facing your wife, connect the area between your wrist and your elbow to that same area on her and just hold the connection for several seconds and look at her arm(s). You can do it with both arms or just one while you use the other hand to tickle your fingertips across her forearm / underarm skin.
2. When you're tired and ready for YOU time and just don't feel like giving any more to any one else then go ahead and summon up enough extra energy to connect with your wife in a non-sexual way. Tell her that that you are exhausted and tired but that she is such a pleasure and a joy to you that you just have to bask in the sunshine of her presence for the next 15 – 30 minutes – but that she needs to turn her "sun" down a little lest she "rejuvenate" you to the point she turns you into a sex-maniac. And then, just really connect with her in a totally non-sexual way for the next little way. You might just find that the attention you've given her even when you're tired causes her to start coming on to you...and that you have "just enough" energy left...
3. The most sexual, erotic thing you can give a person is YOURSELF. In fact, one could say that "giving yourself" is sex. And, with that thought in your mind, carefully consider what it is that you're giving your wife. Is what you're giving resulting in the kind of sex you want? Or, is it time now to change what you're giving so that you get a different kind of sex? Either way, give yourself in a way tonight that will cause your woman to have sexual thoughts – even if you have to step outside your comfort zone.
4. Be brave enough to tell your wife what you want from her sexually. Tell her at a time when she will have some time to process it alone and prepare herself appropriately – like some morning when you've got a little time and then are going to be parting ways for the day. Most people don't realize just how appealing it is to their spouse when they are straightforward and honest about what they want sexually.
5. Let your wife know that you would NEVER cheat on her as long as she is your woman. Let her know that even when there are issues that need to be dealt with – even when there are problems affecting attraction and intimacy that you want to work through those issues and problems but that you will not cheat on her because you respect and value her too much. Let her know that the relationship you have with her is far more important to you than a mere fling with someone else.
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