If you are a man in a relationship that's not as sexual as you would like, then I have good news for you: YOU CAN HAVE A MORE SEXUAL MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP.
Yes, you really can. As impossible as it may seem to you right now, I can assure you that enjoying more sex is entirely possible for you.
However, I must also tell you that creating a more sexual marriage or relationship is an up-hill battle that will require courage, strength, patience, persistence, education, and personal growth on your part.
How a woman views things of a sexual nature depends upon how she has been conditioned to think about them and how she chooses to think of them now.
A person can't really help it if they grew up being conditioned with thought processes and perspectives that have proven to be ineffective or even harmful. But, as an adult, they CAN NOW change their viewpoints, beliefs, and behaviors so that they can get a better outcome.
Unfortunately, it's a rare person who chooses to do this – who chooses to think for their own self when they move into their adult years. Most just continue on for the rest of their life operating according to their childhood conditioning and programming.
That would be ok if most people's conditioning was geared towards top success in all the important areas of their life – but that's not often the case.
Relative to the topic at hand, more women that you might imagine are conditioned to believe that sexual pleasure is PERVERSE.
They are conditioned to believe that sex for the purpose of procreation is TOLERATED and anything beyond that is wrong.
They are conditioned to believe that ANYTHING that could be a source of sexual pleasure should be avoided.
And, given that most women are unwilling to go against the norms that are a part of their culture, society, and/or religion – it becomes MOST IMPORTANT to them that they maintain an OUTWARD exhibition of NON-sexual conduct and behavior.
The problem is, there is a part of a woman that craves sexual pleasure.
So, some women learn to masturbate in secret. They hide it from everybody. And, should the subject ever come up, they vehemently argue that any such behavior is "wrong" and emphatically state that they would NEVER do such a thing.
In other cases, women indulge in vivid, hardcore fantasies. But again, they deny all such activity and will in fact "condemn" such behavior in a public setting.
In cases like these, a woman has a "dirty little secret" that she must hide – and the most common way she chooses to hide it is to become even more anti-sexual in public.
In other cases, women have the moral stamina to "resist" the temptation to touch their self or to entertain thoughts of a sexual nature whenever they crop up – but, it's such a constant struggle that they remain depressed and despondent most of the time. Such women feel dirty, evil, and guilty because sexual thoughts and feelings keep rising up inside.
But, far and away, the biggest problem with all of this is that as part of maintaining that OUTWARD non-sexual appearance, a woman squelches and minimizes her sexuality in her marriage – in many cases to the point of avoiding intimacy whenever possible and rejecting it when confronted with a request.
And of course, she would never let herself experiment with new positions, oral sex, or fantasy role-playing – even though in the deep recesses of her mind, these are EXACTLY the things she wants to do.
Because she fails to realize that sexual expression is a good thing created by God to be enjoyed within the confines of a marriage, she behaves in a way that often harms or even destroys the very institution that God created for her to enjoy sex within.
So, here's the point that men must embrace and begin to work with now...
In order to fix this marriage-harming or marriage-destroying behavior of sexual denial and avoidance, a man must lead, teach, and help his woman past the conditioning and programming until she is able to express herself sexually without reservation.
Men want sex and orgasms. Women want sex and orgasms too. And, the lack thereof is a major source of tension, stress, and aggravation within a relationship...not just for men but for women too.
The issue is...your woman's desire for sex and orgasms may be so hidden away that it never sees the light of day.
That's why your happiness AND your woman's happiness depends upon you making the decision to find out how to bust open the shell that surrounds and hides all of your woman's sexual desires.
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