We can all be forgiven for the clouded judgment we often exercise in the immediate aftermath of a serious breakup. The shock, pain, anger and confusion can stop us from making normal rational decisions and tempt us to make reactive decisions fuelled by raw emotions without any of the common sense we would normally use.
Some of the mistakes we make are minor and are of little or no consequence. But some of them can seriously damage our chances of ever rescuing a relationship that we value very highly but which somehow went off the rails. In those early days after the breakup, you must avoid at all costs the dreadful temptation of “drunk dialing”.
So what is “drunk dialing”? You can probably guess. You’ve just seen an intimate relationship collapse in a barrage of misunderstanding, anger, hurt and recrimination. You’ve never felt so alone. You need something to dull the pain. And so often that something will be a drink. Just one, you tell yourself. But it feels good, so you think another will be better. It won’t be long before the alcohol has taken a strong enough hold to play its own insidious part in the destruction of your reason.
Suddenly what you want to do more than anything is call your ex. The answer to all your problems is to get him back. So you call him, you say things, promise things, confess things, and start to plead. Your voice is slurred, your thoughts aren’t clear. And what’s worse…he can tell. Is this really the kind of person he wants to have back as his girlfriend? Is this the kind of awkward scene he would welcome? So make sure you never give in to this temptation. It feels so easy, but its consequences could be dire.
You need to find other ways to relieve your pain because drinking will only deepen and prolong it. You need to get active. Take exercise, find hobbies, go out with friends, and maybe even try dating again. You’ll feel better, you’ll look better, and life will seem like something you can handle again and you won’t have accidentally destroyed your ex’s respect for you.
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