Recently, a man said the following to me:
"I am so frustrated!!! No matter what I do, my wife does not give me love, respect, or sex.
I constantly do nice things for my wife. For example:
- I let her sleep in everyday
- I clean house nonstop
- I take care of the children (the roles between me and my wife are switched)
- I tend to her hand and foot trying to make her feel like a queen
- I try not to let her down in anyway
- I tell her she's beautiful multiple times every day
- I'm always complementing her on how intelligent she is
- I don't get mad and call her names or say hurtful things
- I support her a lot as well as helping pay the bills
- I am currently going to college so I can start a new career and support her and the children better financially
The list can go on and on. I do all of these things and more -- all out of love and because I want to. I do it out of love and because I want to make her happy.
I've always had this strong belief that If you're with someone you should do your best to always keep them happy and I guess me doing everything she asks for is my way of trying to do just that -- to love and keep her happy -- and that is my true motive.
But, I figured since I do those nice things (because I want to) she should feel the same way -- as a 50/50 type of thing -- and that's what I DO NOT get from her .
You know, no one wants their efforts to go unnoticed and underappreciated. All I really want is the same love and respect FROM my wife that I GIVE her. The sex is just a bonus I crave -- LOL!
So hopefully, you can now see why I'm so frustrated. After a while it feels like I'm just being taken advantage of and taken for granted."
This sad story is one that I've heard enumerable times. And, it's understandable why husbands like this guy are so frustrated.
After all, it's only logical that when a husband is nice to his wife that she should be nice back to him, right?
Well, it may be "logical" but "logic" is NOT what drives a woman's heart or desires.
Let me tell you the cold, hard truth...a woman can only SURRENDER her heart and her desires...she can only GIVE her love, respect, and sexuality...to a real MAN...one that she LOOKS UP TO AND ADMIRES.
And, there are a thousand and more ways that a man can think, behave, and operate such that he causes his wife to NOT look up to him or admire him.
Granted, the husband may do all kinds of nice things for his wife on one hand. But on the other, he's failing to operate in a way that causes his wife admire him.
Permit me to give you just one example...here's a guy on YouTube who says the following about himself:
"I am a fun loving kind of guy with a passion for entertaining. My wife and kids enjoy being around me every minute of the day and I couldn't imagine life without them!"
Now, here's a video of his...check it out for a minute or two:
http://www.youtube.com/user/jallen56062#p/u/0/EGThw9Yo1eE (video of guy doing voice impressions of Mickey Mouse, Goofy, Donald Duck, etc.)
Now, based on what you've seen of this guy, do you think his wife is able to look up to him and admire him?
Do you think this man's wife can take him seriously?
I can answer that for you... No! She does not.
If someone were to privately ask this guy's wife to name a few men that she considered to be REAL MEN, I can promise you that her husband's name would NOT be on her list.
Regardless of what this guy says in his bio, his wife does NOT enjoy being around him every minute of the day. Probably his kids enjoy his antics but I can promise you his wife does not.
This guy thinks he's being funny and entertaining and all he's really doing is turning his wife off towards himself without even realizing it.
Now, you may think I'm being unduly harsh on this guy in the video...you may think that I'm judging him unfairly based on a few seconds of a video. But, please understand, I'm not condemning, criticizing, or belittling this guy because of his YouTube video. I'm simply using him as one example of how a husband can do all kinds of nice things for his wife and yet she will not give him love, respect, or sex back -- and this guy illustrates this point perfectly.
The kind of man that a woman can admire enough to give her heart and desire to him is one who is never silly or foolish. Sure, he knows how to have fun, be fun, and create fun but the kind of man that a woman will take serious would never waste time creating a string of videos like this guy has created because he's grown-up enough...he's mature enough...to have important, serious, and meaningful things going on in his life.
He's LEADING his wife somewhere meaningful and important...not leaving all the leading up to her while he sits back and plays the clown.
There is good news however. When a wife isn't interested in giving her husband love, respect, or sex, it simply means that the husband needs to learn some important lessons about masculinity and manliness.
And, if he'll learn them pronto...before his wife gets tired of being turned off by him and finds another man...he can turn his wife's negative attitude towards him completely around so that his wife WANTS to share her love, respect, and sex with him.
Copyright 2009, Article by Calle Zorro. Permission is granted to reprint this article ONLY if authorship credit is given to Calle Zorro and a link to DoThisGetSex.com is included with it.
The issue for most husbands is NOT that they have a non-sexual wife (although that's what they usually think). The real issue is that men need to learn how to think and operate in the way that lets them get more love and get more sex. So, if there is a lack of affection, lack of intimacy, and lack of sex in your marriage, go here: www.DoThisGetSex.com You'll be glad you did.